Responsibilities of Parents Against Childhood Education

Tanggung jawab orang tua terhadap pendidikan anakGenerally, role parents in education has an enormous influence in shaping the character and personality of the child. If dipresentase, the role of the elderly will reach 60%, whereas environmental influences mingle (play) 20%, and school environment (regular or non-boarding schools, school go home) also 20%. If the parents' role is not played properly and correctly the influence of education 60% The run will be swallowed up by the environment. The most influential environment for children is the environment bergaulnya, not the school environment.

While the influence of children's education at the boarding school as a place to hang out during 80%, while the influence of the family environment are inborn 20%. If schools are able mempresentasekan role, well, the success of the children's education will be more promising than the regular school.

Therefore, parents should pay attention seriously its role in children's education, including choosing the right educational institution for anakya. The author has made observations in many places, the number of alumni of educational institutions, both regular and boarding, the ultimate level of success, namely obedience to Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala, and adherence to both parents, greater achieved by a large number of alumni of the boarding school than regular school although labeled Islam. Therefore, when children have reached the age of self-, namely 10 years and over had at least graduated from elementary school, hendahklah parents did not hesitate to hand over her son to pesantren education, bermanhaj course Salaf, if the parents do not have the ability to be compared with schools.

Child is a gift as well as a test for human. Mandate that a child is the responsibility of parents. When first born into the world, a child in a state of pure nature and be clean again. Then the two tuanyalah which plays an important role in the next stage, whether they would maintain the sanctity of nature and the heart, or even destroy and defile. Prophet sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam said:

مَامِنْ مَوْلُوْدٍ إِلاَّ يُوْلَدُ عَلَى الْفِطْرَةِ فَأَبَوَاهُ يُهَوَّدَاانِهِ وَيُنَصِّرَانِهِ وَيُمَجِّسَانِهَ

“Tidak ada seorang bayi pun yang terlahir kecuali dalam keadaan fitrah (Islam). Namun kedua orang tuanyalah yang menjadikannya Yahudi atau Nasrani atau Majusi.” (HR. al-Bukhari dan Muslim 2658)

Seorang anak ibarat adonan yang siap dibentuk sesuka orang yang memegangnya, or like a white paper that is ready for anything written on it. If both parents get used to the good, then he will grow up to be a good boy. Otherwise, if they get used to the ugliness of, then he will grow up to be bad anyway.

Education of children is an important part of household life. Because one of the main objectives marriage was the birth of offspring who will be the next generation. Next generation who grew up without the presence of an adequate religious education it will be prey and other victims of colonial civilization. But ironically it was not realized by most couples wife, that religious education received less attention than they.

In the view of most parents in our society, proper education and good is to educate children in school "favorites", with the hope that the child will be able to perform, so it will have a future that is "successful and well-established". No matter what the school teaches Islamic values ​​or not. Even more than that, they do not care if the school is run by a secular or non-Islamic education. In fact, they argued that if you want to get quality "education class", it must educate the children in the educational institutions of non-Islamic. Because these institutions manage and organize educational "professionals", while the schools were organized by Islamic institutions "run away from what they are and professionalism". That is assuming they are in general.

Measure of success in their view is when someone material success, or successfully achieved high standing. They will be very proud and feel successful educating and raising their children, when the children went on to hold a high office, or profession with a prestigious profession or become a big business. They do not care whether their children understand and obey the guidance of his religion, or even get away from it all and did not care. They only know Islam at certain moments, after which they returned to forget and ignore it. Did they forget or pretend not to understand the reason for their existence in this world?! Or do they think will live forever in the world? Or they think that after death it will all go away?!

What was the point of success in the short life of this world, if pursued in a manner that results in endless misery in the Hereafter! Know that true success is when someone first set foot in heaven God. Meditate on the word of Allah Ta'ala:

Every soul shall taste of death but توفون أجوركم day resurrection it is زحزح for the fire and enter Paradise has won and this life only pleasures of vanity

That is to say: "Every soul shall taste death. Indeed on the day and Resurrection shall you be paid your wages. Whoever kept away from hell and put in heaven, Then indeed he has been lucky. The life of this world is nothing but a deceptive pleasure. " (QS. Ali Imran : 185)

Allah Ta'ala has intestate to His servants who believe that keeping away from their families from hell fire. Allah Ta'ala says:

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا قُوا أَنْفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا وَقُودُهَا النَّاسُ وَالْحِجَارَةُ عَلَيْهَا مَلائِكَةٌ غِلاظٌ شِدَادٌ لا يَعْصُونَ اللَّهَ مَا أَمَرَهُمْ وَيَفْعَلُونَ مَا يُؤْمَرُونَ

That is to say: "O ye who believe!, guard yourself and your family from the fire whose fuel is men and stones; guardian angels rough, hard, and do not disobey Allah in what He commands them and always do what they're told. " (QS. At-Tahrim [66]:6)

Maintain or preserve family Dair hellfire requires someone to do education and teaching to her children. Starting from the true faith instilled, then use them to conduct compliance, keep praying, familiarize the children learn the Qur'an, morality and so on. Shallallahua Prophet alaihi wa sallam said:

كُلُّكُمْ رَاعٍ وَكُلُّكُمْ مَسْؤُوْلٌ عَنْ رَعِيَّتِهِ اْلإِمَامُ رَاعٍ وَمَسْؤُوْلٌ عَنْ رَعِيَّتِهِ وَالرَّجُلُ رَاعٍ فِى أَهْلِهِ وَهُوَ مَسْؤُوْلٌ عَنْ رَعِيَّتِهِ وَالْمَرْأَةُ رَاعِيَةٌ فِى بَيْتِ زَوْجِهَا وَمَسْؤُوْلَةٌ عِنْ رَعِيَّتِهَا

"You all are leaders and all of you will be questioned on what he lead. A priest is a leader and will be questioned on leadership. And the husband is the leader in home (family), and will be questioned on leadership. Similarly, a wife is a leader in the House of her husband, and it will be questioned on his leadership. " (HR. Al-Bukhari 2554 and Muslim 1829)

Someone is not impossible to be sued by his beloved son in the presence of God. Children for life in the world he loved and he is very proud of, he sekolahkan the best school, he prepared for all facilities and fulfill her every need materinya, turn out to be the enemy of all his needs materially menggugatnya did he fulfill, religious education but he never perdulikan, The child grows up in foolishness and away from religion. He did not understand how things should berakidah, and not be able to distinguish where monotheism and polytheism which. He did not know the procedure and prayer obligations and various other types of obedience, until he meremehkannya. He could not memedakan any legitimate and which ones are illegal, until everything is finished diraup without selecting and sorting, is this something that is allowed or are prohibited. Would melt religion, behavior would have been corrupted, and his future in the next suramlah. Therefore, do not be surprised if the child will eventually undermine his parents, due to negligence of parents who make it plunged into misery.

Therefore, have the obligation and responsibility of parents to give more attention to the education of the children, exceed its attention to other matters, even to eat, drinking and wellness. Due to negligence on nutritional needs and health conditions of children will only have an impact on the child's health deteriorating, or at most they delivered on death. However dereliction of religious education will be very fatal consequences, because it would make him miserable forever in the hereafter. It's very mengerankan attitude as parents, The only grieve and cry when her body is sick or dead, however not the case when the hearts and souls of sick or dead. Though they claim to truly love and care of her children. Then, what actions plunged into misery children can be said to be an expression of love of love? Absolutely not! Therefore, the parents should rearrange the meaning of love and affection to the children so safe in this world and the hereafter. Wallahu Muwafiq.

 

Drs. Abdurrahim al-Bashir MPd.

(Collected from the magazine Al-snapping Ramadan edition 1432)

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